I need answers! would you let your 18 year old daughter live and work in spain for 3 months on her own?
Were from ireland and spain is about 2 hours away on a plane.well she turns 18 next year so next summer she wants to go over to spain (mallorca) for 3 months to work ina bar or a local shop and rent a place, she loves this place and every year she says shes coming back when shes 18 for a few months for an experience. Do you think its ok to let her go on her own? she won't leave me alone i'll definately go over with her for the first week or 2 to make sure shes settled in and gets a job. shes even started saving for backup money incase she doesn't find a job, she says shes going to try and save up enough money to keep her going over there for 3 months so she doesn't have to get a job. shes also starting a one year college course in september till may so as soon as shes finished that she wants to head over. she says when she comes back after the 3 months she'll finish her college course and carry on studying nursing. what do you think? I just want her to be safe should i say yes and let her carry on saving? Thank you people I think i'll definately let her go, she seems independant enough, its an experience for her and get her obsession with spain over with. and she'll also get to do the things that i never did as i settled down young. Thank you.
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In my country 18 is legal, so saying no it's not an option for her. But i ouldn't worry if i knew she's responsible and can handle herself.
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I know you worry for your daughter, its normal... But don't worry, at 18, she should be quite independent and ready to experience adult life. Unless you see she is not a independent person yet (and ask others judgment too!), send her...To be safe, stay with her the first half month, but after that, shes on her own! Dont worry, she will be fine. But make sure she isnt going there for ''someone'' only...
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She'll be an adult, so she can do what she want. She doesn't need your permission, but I dare say your approval would help her feel more confident. It's not like it's a million miles away-it will be easy for you to keep in touch and the like. Plenty of eighteen year olds go off around the world at that age, so Spain is hardly anything to worry about.
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I'm going to point out some stuff to you 1. SHE'S EIGHTEEN!!! I'm eighteen, and it sucks when your moms are all overprotective and stuff, just trust that you've raised her well and send her on her way, she'll be fine!! 2. IT'S TWO HOURS AWAY!!! I thought you were going to be like in AMERICA, in that case, this would take a little more thought (but i'd still suggest you'd let her go *see point #1) It's not like she's going around the world!! 3. CHILL ... it's next year!! you have time! and it's only three months!!!
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yes definately were from england I have an 18 year old daughter she was dying to go over to spain and work so i let her shes 18 and now an adult she also went on her own and i made sure she rang me everyday. I went with her the first week to help her settle in and help her to look for a job. she stayed there on her own for the whole summer, she loved the experience and when she finishes college she wants to see the world. I'm proud of her and i have given my support to her she deserves it. I was worried about her over there sometimes but we have to let her go. At least she wants to do something with her life and not sit at home all day or be one of those teen mothers. Also since she was on her own there was none of her friends with her so no bad influences on her to get drunk or anything like that. she was there to get a job and rent a flat and to experience spanish life. I was glad she wanted to go during the summer season so there were lots of tourists there she made some tourist friends. she loved being there on her own and feeling independent. The days flew in for her as she just mainly worked non stop over there in a bar and restaurant. Many of her 18 year old friends went travelling straight away when they finished school most actually on their own. A lot of 18 year olds do. Don't worry she will be fine shes now an adult and wants to experience things. good luck she will love you for this.
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