My fiance seems to suddenly hate my mother?
Ok there's quite a bit of back story to this but I have a habit of letting these things run for too long so I'll keep it as short as I can! I'm 18, have been with my fiance (also 18, I'll call him "Sam" to simplify things) for almost 2 years now, and for the most part things are going really well. My mum has always supported our relationship and she loves "Sam" to bits (she is however the type of -slightly embarrassing- mother who constantly mentions how much she would love to have grandchildren, etc), and he's always been very fond of her. However, something has changed over the past couple months and he has been openly criticizing her to me. In the past he's always laughed it off whenever she mentioned marriage or children but lately, even though we talk about those things a lot to each other, he's been saying how inappropriate he thinks she's being. I suppose that could be a fair comment but it's never been an issue before, plus he speaks about her in very harsh terms that make me feel uncomfortable. A few days ago he asked me to go to Spain with him and his family (I went to Tenerife with them for a week in December also), and my mum said she would rather I stay here because she missed me so much the last time (which I thought was actually rather sweet). I told him this and he exploded, and started ranting about how selfish and immature she was. All I could think was how his mum had refused to let him come away with us before -to somewhere within the country- and how I had politely held my tongue. Today, "Sam"'s mum said something mean about either my mum's car or her driving (he says she was insulting her car, I'm sure I heard differently), which I was offended by. I spoke to him privately later on and explained that I thought his mum was out of line, but he said I was being over-sensitive and he couldn't see the problem. This quickly developed into a full-blown argument as he started hurling insults my way about how my mum was "lazy" because she gave up her job as a nurse to stay at home and look after me when I was born. He said his mum worked the whole time he and his brother were growing up, but that was only because his mum was a single parent and couldn't afford to stay at home, not because she was any better than my mother! He went on to say that his mum was "worth 20 of my mum" because she's been through so much that apparently my mum wouldn't even be able to comprehend (he knows nothing about my mother or her past by the way). Another thing I should mention is that he is OBSESSED with the idea that there is some kind of class war between him and I. He sees himself as working class, and myself as middle class. He's constantly bringing up the subject of money, and he's suggested a few times that because we have more money than his family we don't all love each other, only our possessions. He says his family are closer than mine (not true) because they only have each other. He also ignorantly said that my parents bought a shop "in the middle of a recession" because they wanted to look "flash", when it has absolutely nothing to do with that. And to be honest, I don't even think he is as typically "working class" as he seems to think. At least if he is, I don't think he's very different from me at all. Wow this really has run on for too longl I'm sorry... Anyway the point is, I'm really confused as to why he's suddenly calling her a "bitch" all the time when just a couple months ago he was singing her praises. Is there something I'm missing here? And is this class war thing ever going to end or is it just something I'll have to put up with if I want to spend the rest of my life with him? I hate to think he's jealous of me, but the way it seems like he's always TRYING to make me jealous of him is very strange... Any advice you could give to help me keep my cool would be great! And thanks for listening. He thinks I'm too defensive when it comes to my mum... Sometimes I worry that this is true. I can't stand to hear anybody insult her, it just makes me see red! But, obviously I know he likes his mum more than my mum, but why say it? What a weird thing to say to someone... and that she's worth 20 of her... I don't understand why he wants to hurt me
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He is a stuck up fucking ***hole. What a prick. How can you stand being with him? I would have dumped him a long time ago. You deserve so much better than him.
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His true colors are coming out, dump him. You deserve much better.
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I completly agree. He is being very disrespectful towards your mother. If I were you, I'd tell him to work things out or stop because it's making you upset. She's your mother for pete's sake! She loves you very much and shouldn't be treated this way, seeing that she is to, older. Good luck! God bless!
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Something in life I have found to be true. A man treats his Mother and your Mother like he will treat you eventually. Without fail, it always happens.
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i'm sorry to have to tell you this, but he is turning into a control freak. after that comes all kinds of rules, don't see your mom, don't see your friends, don't do this can't do that. then the hitting starts!!! it's time you and old sam parted ways. as he says, find someone in your own class, like someone that isn't an assho!e. because, trust me, the bad that you are going through now, is just THE BEGINNING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IT WILL ONLY GET WORSE AND WORSE!!! if you stay with him, remember what i told you today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Okay. Wow. Your fiance is behaving like a child. 18 is fairly young (you're only a year older than me), and at this age there can sometimes be a maturity gap between males and females. It's obvious to me that you are more emotionally developed than he is. That's not a good sign for the two of you as a couple. Also, this crap he's pulling about your mother is complete nonsense. Even if your mother was a terrible person (which she is not), he would not have a right to call her offensive terms. If, for some inexplicable reason, he has something against her, he still needs to respect that she is your MOTHER and that you love her. And also, if he is jealous of you now, I can assure you that he will only get more jealous as time goes on. Even though I think his jealousy is ridiculous, I can tell you from experience that it will only get worse after your marriage. You need to tell him firmly that he MUST stop insulting your mother, that he must start showing some more respect for the woman that gave birth to you. You also need to address the jealousy issue. Bring it up calmly, and ask him about it gently since it may be a very sore topic. If he can't discuss this with you rationally then that should tell you something too. It may be that he is just not ready for such a serious committment as marriage right now. If that's the case, step back and give him space. You'll be better off.
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Tell him that you can't stand him if he's like that to your mom. Show him how much your mom means to you and how much you love your mom. Tell him what's in this polaroid picture all the time: http://www.pixisnap.com/main/view/0000007161
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Monday, May 28, 2012
Monday, May 14, 2012
Please help as soon as possible
Please help as soon as possible?
1. The following animals are most commonly seen on a whale watching trip in the Bay of Fundy, except: Puffins Right Whales Nurse Sharks Basking sharks 2. What causes the abundance of available food in the Bay of Fundy? high numbers of fishermen high numbers of whales high numbers of people upwellings 3. Why is the Bay of Fundy such a great place for migrating shorebirds? large numbers of mud shrimp large numbers of crabs no people to bother them plenty of areas to nest 4. The cultural heritage of the New Brunswick area of Canada is traced back to what country? France England Germany Spain
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1. The following animals are most commonly seen on a whale watching trip in the Bay of Fundy, except: Puffins Right Whales Nurse Sharks Basking sharks 2. What causes the abundance of available food in the Bay of Fundy? high numbers of fishermen high numbers of whales high numbers of people upwellings 3. Why is the Bay of Fundy such a great place for migrating shorebirds? large numbers of mud shrimp large numbers of crabs no people to bother them plenty of areas to nest 4. The cultural heritage of the New Brunswick area of Canada is traced back to what country? France England Germany Spain
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Monday, May 7, 2012
Romeo and Juliet questions, i need answer, please helpme
Romeo and Juliet questions, i need answer, please helpme?
1. What does the chorus say about Romeo at the beginning of Act II? a. The chorus says that Romeo does not know who he loves. b. The chorus says that Romeo met lots of beautiful girls at the party c. The chorus says that Romeo no longer loves Rosaline, but wants to marry juliet. d. The chorus says that Romeo wishes that he had never gone to the party. 2. Juliet quickly admits her love for Romeo in the famous balcony scene because_________? a. She wants to marry him b. She is sure his love is true c. She is not a flirt d. He has overheard her thinking aloud about her love for him 3. Tybalt sends a letter to Lord Montague's home saying_________? a. he is angry because of jokes Mercutio makes about him b. Juliet will marry him with the permission of Lord Capulet c. He has a feud to settle with Romeo and wishes to challenge Romeo d. He will spy for the Montague family if he can marry Rosaline. 4. When a character deliers a soliloquy, he or she________? a. directs his or her thoughts to other characters onstage. b. expresses private thoughts to the audience c. speaks from behind a curtain or somewhere offstage d. describes an event that is related to but not a part of the dialogue in the play 5. What do juliet and Romeo decide to do about their love? a. They plan to have Friar Laurence Marry them. b. The Nurse will lead them out of Verona, away from the Montague and Capulet clans. c. They plan to marry, with their parent's permission, when Juliet turns sixteen. d. The Montagues will hide Juliet in their home after the couple has married. 6. Tybalt sends a letter to Lord Montague and tells him__________? a. he is angry because of jokes Mercutio makes about him b. Juliet will marry him with the permission of Lord Capulet c. He has a feud to settle with Romeo and wishes to challenge Romeo d. He will spy for the Montague family if he can marry Rosaline. 7. Mercutio engages Romeo in conversation about fashion in order to-------- a. let Romeo speak about Juliet's beauty b. Convince Romeo to send a letter to the house of Capulet c. have Romeo match wits with him d. prove to Benvolio that Romeo is intelligent. 8. Tybalt sends a letter to Lord Montague and tells him----------- A. whenever Shakespeare stages a fight B. when the audience knows something that the characters in the play do not C. when the friar believes he can unite the feuding D. when Juliet is insecure about Romeo's true feelings 9. How does Juliet speak, yet say nothing? a. writing a letter b. sign language c. with her eyes d. sending a messenger 10. Which character first persuades Romeo to attend the Feast? a. Mercutio b. Benvolio c. Lady Montague d. Juliet 11. In Act II where do Roemo and Juliet meet? a. At capulet's feast b. At Friar Lawrence's cell c. At Montague's feast d. At the pier from Which Malvolio is departing for Spain. 12. Why does Tybalt first challenge Romeo to a duel? a. He is offended that Romeo is in love with his cousin b. He is offended that Romeo bites his thumb at him. c. Tybalt does not challenge Romeo to a duel; he challenges Mercutio d. He is offended that Romeo shows up at the Capulet ball. 13. When Friar Laurence agrees to marry the couple, His chief Motive is to a. please the lovers b. prove that Romeo is sincere c. prevent an elopement d. end the feud between the families. please answear it perfectly..... :) and i need it right now .. please answear it asap :) please..
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You should really read or watch the play. Its really nice. 1. c 2.a 3. c 4. b 5. a 6. c 7. a 8 ((You repeated the questions so I don't know if I should give an answer )) 9. d 10 b 11 b 12 a 13 d 3,6 &8 are repeated questions just to let you know
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1. What does the chorus say about Romeo at the beginning of Act II? a. The chorus says that Romeo does not know who he loves. b. The chorus says that Romeo met lots of beautiful girls at the party c. The chorus says that Romeo no longer loves Rosaline, but wants to marry juliet. d. The chorus says that Romeo wishes that he had never gone to the party. 2. Juliet quickly admits her love for Romeo in the famous balcony scene because_________? a. She wants to marry him b. She is sure his love is true c. She is not a flirt d. He has overheard her thinking aloud about her love for him 3. Tybalt sends a letter to Lord Montague's home saying_________? a. he is angry because of jokes Mercutio makes about him b. Juliet will marry him with the permission of Lord Capulet c. He has a feud to settle with Romeo and wishes to challenge Romeo d. He will spy for the Montague family if he can marry Rosaline. 4. When a character deliers a soliloquy, he or she________? a. directs his or her thoughts to other characters onstage. b. expresses private thoughts to the audience c. speaks from behind a curtain or somewhere offstage d. describes an event that is related to but not a part of the dialogue in the play 5. What do juliet and Romeo decide to do about their love? a. They plan to have Friar Laurence Marry them. b. The Nurse will lead them out of Verona, away from the Montague and Capulet clans. c. They plan to marry, with their parent's permission, when Juliet turns sixteen. d. The Montagues will hide Juliet in their home after the couple has married. 6. Tybalt sends a letter to Lord Montague and tells him__________? a. he is angry because of jokes Mercutio makes about him b. Juliet will marry him with the permission of Lord Capulet c. He has a feud to settle with Romeo and wishes to challenge Romeo d. He will spy for the Montague family if he can marry Rosaline. 7. Mercutio engages Romeo in conversation about fashion in order to-------- a. let Romeo speak about Juliet's beauty b. Convince Romeo to send a letter to the house of Capulet c. have Romeo match wits with him d. prove to Benvolio that Romeo is intelligent. 8. Tybalt sends a letter to Lord Montague and tells him----------- A. whenever Shakespeare stages a fight B. when the audience knows something that the characters in the play do not C. when the friar believes he can unite the feuding D. when Juliet is insecure about Romeo's true feelings 9. How does Juliet speak, yet say nothing? a. writing a letter b. sign language c. with her eyes d. sending a messenger 10. Which character first persuades Romeo to attend the Feast? a. Mercutio b. Benvolio c. Lady Montague d. Juliet 11. In Act II where do Roemo and Juliet meet? a. At capulet's feast b. At Friar Lawrence's cell c. At Montague's feast d. At the pier from Which Malvolio is departing for Spain. 12. Why does Tybalt first challenge Romeo to a duel? a. He is offended that Romeo is in love with his cousin b. He is offended that Romeo bites his thumb at him. c. Tybalt does not challenge Romeo to a duel; he challenges Mercutio d. He is offended that Romeo shows up at the Capulet ball. 13. When Friar Laurence agrees to marry the couple, His chief Motive is to a. please the lovers b. prove that Romeo is sincere c. prevent an elopement d. end the feud between the families. please answear it perfectly..... :) and i need it right now .. please answear it asap :) please..
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You should really read or watch the play. Its really nice. 1. c 2.a 3. c 4. b 5. a 6. c 7. a 8 ((You repeated the questions so I don't know if I should give an answer )) 9. d 10 b 11 b 12 a 13 d 3,6 &8 are repeated questions just to let you know
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Tuesday, May 1, 2012
Revolutionary War Report/diary
Revolutionary War Report/diary?
I have been assigned a report for history & it is about 1775, [Rev.War] and I have to pretend to be a nurse in the Continental Army living through these events and have to make a diary describing all these events: 1. The Battles of Lexington & Concord 2. The Battle Of Bunker Hill 3. News of the Olive Branch Petition 4. News of The Declaration of Independence 5. Washington's crushing defeat in New York 6. Retreat across New Jersey 7. Victory at Trenton and Princeton 8. British capture Philadelphia 9. The Battle of Saratoga 10. France and Spain send help 11. Winter at Valley Forge 12. The Battle of Cowpens 13. The Battle of Yorktown 14. News of The Treaty of Paris Now, I'm begging [not asking for you to do my report!] that someone will help me by putting brief details describing EACH event so i know what i'm writing about in this diary. Thank you sooooooooooo much!!!! No links please- I just want someone to briefly sum up each event please i really don't understand!!! Thanks =D!
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You are asking for quite a lot of information and I don't think any one will spend the amount of time needed to answer you. Here's the best I can do for you, if you don't like the answer I've given then ignore it. Major battles and events of the American Revolution include: http://www.kidport.com/RefLib/UsaHistory/AmericanRevolution/Battles.htm •Battle of Lexington and Concord •Capture of Fort Ticonderoga •Battle of Bunker Hill •Olive Branch Petition •British Evacuation of Boston •Invasion of Quebec, Canada •Battle of Long Island •Battle of White Plains •Battle of Fort Washington •Washington crossing the Delaware River •Battle of Trenton •Battle of Princeton •Battle of Brandywine •Battle of Germantown •Battle of Oriskany •Battle of Bennington •Battle of Saratoga •Battle of Monmouth •Winter at Valley Forge •Battle of Savannah •Battle of Charleston •Battle of Camden •Battle of King's Mountain •Battle of Cowpens •Battle of Guilford •Battle of Eutaw Springs •Battle of Yorktown http://www.kidport.com/RefLib/UsaHistory/AmericanRevolution/Battles.htm
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I have been assigned a report for history & it is about 1775, [Rev.War] and I have to pretend to be a nurse in the Continental Army living through these events and have to make a diary describing all these events: 1. The Battles of Lexington & Concord 2. The Battle Of Bunker Hill 3. News of the Olive Branch Petition 4. News of The Declaration of Independence 5. Washington's crushing defeat in New York 6. Retreat across New Jersey 7. Victory at Trenton and Princeton 8. British capture Philadelphia 9. The Battle of Saratoga 10. France and Spain send help 11. Winter at Valley Forge 12. The Battle of Cowpens 13. The Battle of Yorktown 14. News of The Treaty of Paris Now, I'm begging [not asking for you to do my report!] that someone will help me by putting brief details describing EACH event so i know what i'm writing about in this diary. Thank you sooooooooooo much!!!! No links please- I just want someone to briefly sum up each event please i really don't understand!!! Thanks =D!
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You are asking for quite a lot of information and I don't think any one will spend the amount of time needed to answer you. Here's the best I can do for you, if you don't like the answer I've given then ignore it. Major battles and events of the American Revolution include: http://www.kidport.com/RefLib/UsaHistory/AmericanRevolution/Battles.htm •Battle of Lexington and Concord •Capture of Fort Ticonderoga •Battle of Bunker Hill •Olive Branch Petition •British Evacuation of Boston •Invasion of Quebec, Canada •Battle of Long Island •Battle of White Plains •Battle of Fort Washington •Washington crossing the Delaware River •Battle of Trenton •Battle of Princeton •Battle of Brandywine •Battle of Germantown •Battle of Oriskany •Battle of Bennington •Battle of Saratoga •Battle of Monmouth •Winter at Valley Forge •Battle of Savannah •Battle of Charleston •Battle of Camden •Battle of King's Mountain •Battle of Cowpens •Battle of Guilford •Battle of Eutaw Springs •Battle of Yorktown http://www.kidport.com/RefLib/UsaHistory/AmericanRevolution/Battles.htm
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