What can I do girlfriend won't commit?
I am 24 and my girlfriend is 22. We have been together just over 4 years. She is Spanish, I moved from the UK to Spain to be with her 2 years ago. I have lived away from home for 9 years. I have been through 3 flats while being in Spain and have always lived alone or with flat mates. My girlfriend has never lived away from home. Apart from 3 months a year ago when she went on an exchange programme to the UK without me - which she regularly says to others and sometimes to me was the best time of her life. My girlfriend has finished university and is unemployed - she is a nurse. She relies on work which is phoned out from the government on short notice often she goes 4-5 months with only a few days of work. She does not want to look for more steady work. She got called for a job interview in my city after handing out her CV and she turned it down on the phone. We have sexual problems as my girlfriend has extreme pain during sex she is seeing drs about this. We are having to use special toys recommend to us medically. I am OK with this though as other things in the relationship are great. She is unfit and has a poor diet. As a result she is constantly tired. She seems quite content with the way the relationship is this now. She says she loves me and wants to move in with me. But it seems she doesn't actively look for a job and is quite content living off her parents. I want her to move in with me as I definately feel we are at that stage in the relationship. But she is content studying, doing the little work she gets and living off her parents. What should I do?
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1 :
let her know u want to move forward which includes her working and you working so you can support yourselves cause ur getting older.
2 :
Well it seems as if your lifestyle is unfit for hers.. she wants things done her way and you want things done your way.. im not sure if you two will ever compromise.. so what i suggest you do is to either wait it out or tell her you need some space to figure things out, date other girls and find out what you want.. good luck <3 god bless <3 please answer my question and return the favor =) http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AlBD3zqb6WAOfVI9kfQO9Ojsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090602130602AATvd01
3 :
Listen to your heart....
4 :
Leave Her Leave such monotonous Girl u have urs whole life awaiting start with new horizon
5 :
it may sound harsh but she needs to grow up a bit and start pulling her own weight and putting some effort into the relationship. as she has no job and money im guessing that you pay for most things for the both of you, thats not fair. and if she loved you she would want to be able to treat you as well as you treat her. you need to sit down with her and discuss this openly and honestly. answer mine please http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AuCfEmdM2F74yFGngZ0vwi4gBgx.;_ylv=3?qid=20090602142108AAlCwM3
6 :
let her know everything cant be her way
7 :
getting together is a partnership, even if you do not get married, living together is still a partnership. You both have needs and responsibilities. If she will not act responsible and pay her part then she is not a good choice for a live in grilfriend. it is one thing if you can afford to support her and want to, then by all means enjoy it. But, it sounds like you would be unhappy and fight over your expectations and her laziness. I dont want to sound harsh but if she is not on the same page as you about how your realtionship and responsibilities are then you need to stop wasting time with her. it is harsh and nobody likes to admit they made a poor choice but that is the idea I am getting from your question. Good luck!
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You should talk to her about how you feel. I don't really know what the whole situation is, but by your descriptions, I think I would probably start enjoying life outside of the relationship a little. She is too comfortable in the relationship and she knows that you will always be there, I mean, you did move a long ways to be with her so she is not afraid of losing you. I would say, go hang out with your friends a little, have a life and she will come around. Again, I'm not sure of your whole situation, so that is just my thought! Good luck!
9 :
if she's unable to commit to a job, herself, and is content with her life, you really need to really think about what you're doing with her. she's comfortable having others care for her and she isn't going to change that anytime soon. until she gets a job for at least a year, i wouldn't allow her to move in. just think about it!!!!!!!!!!!! ALOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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